Readers of my book When You're About To Go Off The Deep End, Don't Take Your Kids With You and thousands of my audience members are amazed to find the secret to
online parenting classes is much easier than they thought.
Fundamental Strategies for Changing Behavior
Many parents taking control of young children's behavior find it particularly
challenging to change the patterns they have established in terms of acting and
reacting. Review these three strategies and then give yourself online parenting classes
and think before reacting to your child's next outburst.
Find your Child's "Buy In" - Your child, like you, is motivated when
they have an invested interest in online parenting classes. Find your child's
motivation and you've got it made. For instance, a child's "buy in" to helping
make dinner may be that they get to eat. If suddenly you "go on strike" and
no one helps out, dinner is not made. You are guaranteed to have found your
child (and maybe even your spouse's) "buy in."
Discipline with Joy - Instead of yelling and throwing a tantrum
yourself, follow through and discipline with online parenting classes. Children do
badly when they feel bad. Making a child feel worse about their action rarely
inspires them to improve their behavior.
Follow-through - When you say you're going to take online parenting classes,
do it. Empty threats only teach your child to not listen to you.
Once you have mastered these three commonsense secrets to changing behavior, you
can focus on maintaining the changes.
Maintaining the Change
There is only one skill I know of that works for maintaining any change--and that
is consistency!
Consistency is the glue that maintains any change. If you are not
consistent, long-term change is impossible. So do what you say, and keep doing
it consistently until online parenting classes are permanent.
This may be difficult, especially when your children test you. You have been
acting and reacting to their behavior in a certain way for a long time. When you
suddenly change to online parenting classes, your kids will tend to act up even
more than at first.
The good news? Changing children's behaviors for the better is possible when you
are consistent. Since you want your kids to change their misbehavior
permanently, you need to prove to them that you mean business and are committed
to online parenting classes.
The great news is that generally after a week or two of being consistent, children will trust your follow-through enough to change themselves. At this point, you have lift-off. You have mastered the secret of online parenting classes and maintaining the change with your children!
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