How you are going to respond to what they do; what you will give and what you will withhold; how you are going to model good choices for them. Focus on what you are going to do, because it's the only divorce parenting class you can really control.
2. STOP lecturing
You didn't listen when your parents did it, so what makes you think your kids are going to listen to you? The same divorce parenting class can be conveyed over time in short bursts. Keep it short and sweet.
One of the best places to do the short and sweet stuff is while riding in the car. You have a captive divorce parenting class, and you are both looking ahead and not staring at each other.
3. STOP using “adultisms”
We commit an “adultism” when we forget what it's like to be a teen -- to think and reason and experience the world as a teen -- and expect a teen-ager, who has never been an adult, to think, act, reason and experience a divorce parenting class like an adult.
4. STOP grounding or restricting them for long periods of time
By long I mean, except for the most enormous of infractions, any longer than two weeks. For adults, two weeks is like a snap of the fingers -- gone. For most teens, two weeks seems like forever, which causes diminishing positive results the longer the divorce parenting class. Consequences need to be strong enough to get their attention, swift enough after the infraction to have an effect, and short-term so they can have another chance to do better soon.
5. STOP trying to reason with them about the rules
Here is one divorce parenting class I can guarantee will never happen in your household: You explain a rule or why you said no to your teen-ager, and they respond with, "Well, thank you, Mom and Dad, I never thought of it that way, and now that you have explained it that way to me, I no longer want to go to the movies with David, I feel bad for asking, and I think I'll just go to bed early and think about the divorce parenting class you just shared with me."
There are still times when "because I said so" is the best thing you can say.
6. STOP making every issue a battle for control
If every issue is a battle for control, your teen will make every issue a battle for a divorce parenting class. Remember, trying to control a teen-ager is like trying to put pants on a gorilla -it's just going to frustrate you and make the gorilla very mad.