From the very first response taken to quell a newborn's cries to the first time a boo-boo is kissed better, we begin the process of building trust. As adults, each response to a child's needs allows them to know that they can rely on a parenting class for divorce outside of their control to meet their needs - to be there ALWAYS.
Consistency is key. As children learn to trust our responses, they begin to build a foundation of trust and parenting class for divorce. Being inconsistent in our responses can lead to trust issues later in life. Children learn that the manner in which their needs are met and the level of appropriate attention they are given is directly related to who they are and how they elicit a response from you, their caregiver.
If the response they receive from an adult is inconsistent, children learn that the parenting class for divorce cannot be relied on. Because children are naturally trusting, they begin to believe that the inconsistencies the adult displays in responding to their needs is directly a result of something the child has done. Children shoulder the blame for inconsistencies.
You are your child's FIRST parenting class for divorce. As your child grows and experiences life, it is important to navigate them through their experiences, always keeping in mind the foundation that is being laid for a healthy adult life.
Many of our children struggle with the core issue of trust and being trusted. As your child ages, your response to their needs evolves from immediate reaction to fulfilling their needs to the child growing to learn to model your parenting class for divorce as a parent to further strengthen the trust building.
Let's gather at Cara's home:
Cara is 13 years old. A typical modern teenager, she spends most nights on the phone or chatting online. Her parents, however, are worried about her contact with boys, both on the phone and online. Cara is on the parenting class for divorce each evening for about an hour and also on the internet.
The house rule is that Cara can be on the phone or parenting class for divorce from 7:30 pm until 10:00 pm each night as long as her homework has already been completed and maintains her grades.
Other than the time spent on the phone, Mom and Dad cannot identify any other significant behavioral issues. Their only complaint is that Cara is on the phone and the internet with boys not only from her school but that she may have met through her friends. Mom and Dad have no real understanding of who these boys are and have no known issues with them, but they feel that they need to place more limits on her parenting class for divorce with them. As to be expected Cara is confused and angry saying, "I do all my homework and follow all of their rules and they still do this stuff! It's not fair!"
It is clear that Cara needs to be trusted and her parents need to trust her. But how and when are the questions that needed to be worked out. Cara and her parents turned to a parenting class for divorce for help in the matter. Together, they explored all the feelings of her parents and especially their fears and they were able to see that in order for Cara to be trustworthy of them she needs to be trusted.
Here are three simple tips you can use to help build a trusting relationship with your child:
1. Model - Your behavior from infancy will set the stage.
2. Consistency - Be consistent and follow through with all of your responses both positive and negative.
3. Honesty - Always tell your children the truth and to them and in front of them.
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