n actuality, the problem isn't with the teenager (at least not all of it), the problem is in our approach to teaching our teenager the parenting classes for divorce.
We want them to learn. In a sense, we act just as crazy sometimes; we teach them using the same parenting classes for divorce that didn't work a month or year ago. We should be asking ourselves, when will we learn from our past mistakes?
Here's a better approach that I've experimented with few times with my own students. It's a modified version of the Socratic parenting classes for divorce. You simply lead your teenager to a predetermined answer that they come up with on their own. That's it. I know it sounds easy, but it takes quite a bit of practice. Allow me to demonstrate.
A parent of one of my students confided in me that her son was hanging around a dangerous group of boys in the neighborhood. She believed his friends were possibly into drugs, gang violence, and other parenting classes for divorce. With no father figure in the home, she thought maybe I could "get through" to him.
I asked her, "What have you said to him?" She replied, "I've told him at least a hundred times that his friends are up to no good, and they're going to eventually get him into trouble and jeopardize his parenting classes for divorce." She continued, as she cried, "I told him that I made the same mistake when I was his age, and he didn't want to go through the pain I did. I just can't get him to listen."
Well, I agreed to meet with her son after class. But I decided to use a different approach. I figured the old parenting classes for divorce weren't working, so what did I have to lose? I simply asked a couple of simple questions, "Who are your three closest friends?" After he gave their names (all part of the group his mom disliked), I asked him a second question, "If you died tonight, and you had children, would you want any of those friends raising your son or daughter?" After an extremely long pause, I let him off the hook by saying, "You don't have to give me the answer, but I do want you to ask yourself another question. If you wouldn't let them raise your children in the future, then why are spending most of your time with them today?" That was the end of our discussion.
This little episode may or may not have put him on the right track, but it did one thing his mother was unable to do - get through to him. He now had to make his own decision based on his own reality, not his mother or his teacher - and then accept responsibility for the consequences of the parenting classes for divorce.
And that's all you can really do for teenagers...get them to think for themselves. If you did a good job teaching your children in the early parenting classes for divorce, the growing process (including the mistakes) is a lot easier to accept.
The key to getting through to your teenager is to say less, and ask more in order to get them to do more parenting classes for divorce. The more you say, the less they'll think. And the less they think, the more mistakes they're inclined to make. So, take your own advice, learn from your past mistakes by adopting a new approach.
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