Learn how to talk

Open communication is essential. You and the other parent need to be able to talk about your child and make cooperative decisions. If you're able to talk naturally in a pleasant and reasonable way, you're on the right path. But if you find yourself gritting your teeth, shouting or getting upset, try to treat your conversations with the other parent in a more detached, business-like way. You can learn in parenting classes for divorce.

You have to conduct the business of parenting together, so treat it like a business transaction. You wouldn't let your temper get the better of you in most parenting classes for divorce, so try to be polite to your ex in the same way you would to a stranger you are working with.

I worked with one family that kept ending up back in court. The bottom line was that they could not communicate in any reasonable way. Every time they exchanged children, they had a blowup. They finally went to parenting classes for divorce who had them practice discussing only the situation at hand, and putting their emotions and problems with each other on the back burner to be dealt with at another time. These parenting classes for divorce worked, and when they had to do the business of parenting, they were able to focus only on that task and keep the rest of their problems separate.

Get help

Co-parenting may not come naturally to you, particularly if you're a high-conflict couple, or you're still recovering from the nastiness of a divorce. But there are plenty of ways to get parenting classes for divorce  to help with your parenting relationship.

Take parenting classes for divorce together (even if you go at separate times). These parenting classes for divorce, which many state court systems now mandate for all divorcing couples, can be very helpful. If parenting classes for divorce is not required in your area, check with your attorney, the court clerk or the state department of mental health services to find parenting classes for divorce near you.

Consider seeing a therapist. A couples therapist can help you improve your co-parenting skills through parenting classes for divorce. Your child can also benefit from having a therapist to talk with, and that therapist may, ultimately, be able to help you and your ex work together to help your child.

If, however, you have serious, lingering disagreements about the co-parenting plan itself, a mediator can help you work through them and come to an agreement that will work for everyone.

Forgive Yourself

While it may seem as though co-parenting is solely about your interaction with the other parent, a big part is your own internal thought process. Although you have to learn to forgive or at least let go of things the other parent has done, you must also forgive yourself for anything you secretly believe you've done - whether to the other parent or to your child. Everyone who goes through the emotional turmoil of a divorce makes mistakes and you need to tell yourself it is OK.

You also need to learn to forgive yourself for the slip-ups you will make as you co-parent. No one can keep up a perfect façade at all times. You're going to lose your temper, be inflexible or let your hurt get the best of you sometimes in dealing with the other parent. Tell yourself it's OK and that you will simply try harder the next time.

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